What does a working mother of three do when she finds herself home alone for three days? Well, true story, I can tell you the answer:
Bake, lots. Clean, prune and organize. And think. Lots.
Turns out though that I wasn’t completely alone. I had two rambunctious, trouble-generating puppies to keep me company.
I thought about the meaning of love – after all, it was Valentines Day this week. Turns out, when you look on-line for a definition of love you may find out that
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
The dogs certainly challenged this definition; I may not have been endlessly patient. I may have angered. I’m afraid I can list their wrongs (they got in the chicken coop – twice, vomited on the rug – once, peed on the rug – once, made a hole in the fence – once, escaped through their new hole in the fence – once, woke me at 530 – three times). And, I did boast a bit when a nice lady complimented my ability to walk two young labs at the same time (didn’t mention that I had run them in the fields for two hours before she saw us limping home.)
I watched TV and learned, from an episode of “How I Met Your Mother”, that
opening yourself up to another person means opening yourself up to going a little insane
Okay, that definition of love I’ve got covered.
I looked up the meaning of the word non sequitur.
I did some laundry (I may have been alone but, I do have three kids.) Pruned the roses. Organized the freezer (to fit in all the baked goods) and then felt compelled to eat all the odd bits of frozen things there for breakfast, lunch and dinner. Read the NY Times all the way through. Looked at Twitter despite planning to take a “holiday” from social media. And there I found this definition of love:
Love, I’ve recently recognized, is that moment when you desperately need forgiveness from the one who inspires your best self for having just been, in some small, petty way, your base self.
I walked the dogs again. Made the beds. Cleaned a closet. Sorted through the CDs; listened to lots of Alexi Murdoch, Macy Gray and The Cure. And, spent several nice hours on the phone talking with a handsome man from Switzerland who has always inspired my best self. My Swiss friend asked me – It is hard to live alone isn’t it?
Its going to rain Tuesday.
7 thoughts on “Love and “Non Sequitur” Defined (or, A Weekend Alone)”
I liked this slice of your life post👍. Even more so because it felt like it was written to and for me. Love is truly a powerful thing😘. And say what you will, Zoe and I think those two dogs are super cute, we loved the pic. Hope you and your poochies are sleeping happily and peacefully. LOVE
Of course it was written for you! Who else could I trick into buying these two pups from me? 😉
It’s actually amazing how much a mom can accomplish with some child-free time off! Sometimes you just need a day or two to get caught up on household stuff and then when your kids come back you are ready to focus on fun things because everything else is done.
Yes, we are good at getting everything accomplished. Maybe not as good at putting our feet up, polishing our toes and reading a book while we eat baked goods from… a bag! 🙂
Well, 2 out of 3 ain’t bad, as they say! Sounds like you “focused” on getting all the extras baked into something… You “learned” a bit about the various definitions of love… I think the “stretch” would have been putting your feet up for a bit!!
p.s. it is going to rain, isn’t it? Wish I’d read your post earlier!!
Aw, don’t let me fool you! There was loads of feet up time. And, for that matter a few instances of feet out with friends for dinner and chatting! Which is btw something we really need to do soon!
Kate, this was so interesting, the way you take off from everyday experience to deep thinking. In this case, the meanings of love. I love your writing!